Highly Melanated Podcast
Hosted by PJ, Blair & Red A safe space for you to enjoy every bit of your melanin no matter how "melanated" you are in skin tone, we are ALL Highly Melanated.Come enjoy funny and dynamic conversations that people of color face on a day to day basis with various topics such as loving ourselves, knowing who we are as a people and uplifting each other with a mix of class and rachetness (CLATCHETNESS)
Highly Melanated Podcast
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What happens when creativity meets procrastination head-on? Join us as we share our personal struggles with content creation and the constant tug-of-war between inspiration and deadlines. We'll reveal the humor in swapping our creative roadblocks and discuss how motivation sometimes boils down to simply hitting that post button. With TikTok's future in question, we explore how community and self-reflection can become our secret weapons for overcoming procrastination and achieving our creative goals.
Hear the deeply moving account of visiting sites tied to the Atlantic slave trade, where history books fall short of capturing the true depth of tragedy. Walking through castles and dungeons, and standing at the poignant "last bath" site, offers a perspective that is both heart-wrenching and enlightening. Drawing parallels to visits to places like the National Museum of African American History, we reflect on the significance of sharing these experiences with friends and recognize the weight of the stories these spaces hold. As we edge closer to Kwanzaa, there's an opportunity to honor these histories while looking forward to future celebrations.
Celebrate with us as we mark Blair's milestone in her first filmed project, a creative homage to "Living Single." We can't help but express our pride in Blair's multifaceted talents as an actor, writer, and director, all of which shine brightly in this production. Her dedication and passion reignite a creative spark, proving the power of planning, teamwork, and following one's dreams. Amidst some light-hearted gaming anecdotes and TikTok distractions, we also highlight the importance of support and engagement—especially when it comes to Blair's latest accomplishment. Listen in for a mix of laughter, introspection, and a hearty dose of inspiration.
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No, it's not that kind of tightness, it's pain.
Speaker 2:It's pain.
Speaker 3:It's going to be me. Suspect claims she wants to be an influencer but never posts anything.
Speaker 2:Wait, but low-key. That's like all of us. I'm like we're going to do something. I have a whole no, no, no. All of that right there. Let me tell you something. You see, that's all pr that I have to post. I I have ask me when I'm gonna do it. Ask me when videos that I've already recorded. I'm just like I just need to chop things up and edit it see now wait a minute, see now that part that.
Speaker 3:That that's where, that's where you and I divide, because my issue is if I film it, I edit it, right then, and there.
Speaker 2:See, but that's where I get stuck. I hate editing.
Speaker 3:Oh well then we need to switch lives, because it's the filming part. You'll still be stuck in the same place.
Speaker 2:when you talk about switching lives, what's happening right now?
Speaker 3:Well, we need to switch struggles.
Speaker 2:Okay, no, we're still stuck. You mean we need to synergize and help each other out. That's what you mean.
Speaker 3:That is what I mean just swapping bad things back and forth, because my whole thing is like I'll spend so long thinking about what to shoot, how to shoot it and all that stuff, blah, blah, blah, that I'll just get so on my head about it until it gets to the deadline and I'm like shit, I have, like I literally have something that I have to post to do tomorrow no, my thing is that I have shot things and I'm all like I gotta edit it, all the stuff from. I will edit it.
Speaker 2:You know how much stuff that I have from content, that I have from all these trips that I went on. I and I'm like I'm going to get to it and I never do. I never do?
Speaker 3:I can't let it sit in my phone.
Speaker 2:So that's my promise to myself for next year, that I'm just willing to post it. I'm just Just post it.
Speaker 3:Especially you, because you post on Instagram. I'm trying to post on TikTok and TikTok's about to go bye-bye, so yes, and TikTok's about to go bye-bye, so yes, pj, with your finger up.
Speaker 1:I don't know what it is, but I just love being Black PJ here.
Speaker 3:What up doe? It's your girl, Blair. You know, Mel Melanin was popping yesterday, it's popping today and it's sure enough going to be popping tomorrow.
Speaker 2:It's your boy, Red.
Speaker 1:And you're listening to the Highly Melanated Podcast. The safe space where it's okay to let your OCD take over and do what needs to get done.
Speaker 3:Is it? Okay though needs to get done.
Speaker 1:Is it okay, though PJ is taking control of my life and is saying no more procrastination.
Speaker 2:Red. My life is spiraling out of control and I don't know where to stop. Red, red.
Speaker 1:Blair concerned for red Blair and the gag is back, and the gang is back for another episode, as we were not even going to record an episode, but the conversation started moving, so let's make an episode out of it. It's what I was getting in my head. How are you guys?
Speaker 3:I may be poor, I may be black Hell. I may even be ugly You're not but.
Speaker 2:I'm here. I'm still here, I'm still here.
Speaker 3:Oh Lord, so many iterations. This is how black people do we just take one thing and relate it to another black thing which relates to another. It went from color purple to what was yours, pj. What did you say?
Speaker 1:No, Red said that Red was singing Keisha.
Speaker 3:Cannon yes, but he did it based off of what you said.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I don't even remember. That was like five minutes ago.
Speaker 3:It was literally 30 seconds ago.
Speaker 1:Baby, the way this literally 30 seconds ago.
Speaker 3:I don't think I said anything, because you said I'm still here. But like what was it? Like no, you were saying.
Speaker 1:You said we know what happened it's fine, it's fine I'll listen back and I was like oh, that's what I was saying exactly. I was gonna. I was gonna sing the fantasia song.
Speaker 3:I'm still here see but I didn't even say anything yeah, but you said I'm still here and you said it we're gonna do it anyway.
Speaker 1:So whether you did it now or did it later, we knew that it was going to happen, so I'm glad that we're all here right now and so, like the reason why I actually, uh, just interrupted y'all and started the episode because this is a conversation that I need to have with myself and I'm tired of having it in in the bathroom mirror um and I'm glad to see I'm not the only one um, because there are so many things that we must get done and we don't do it because we got to do it tomorrow and tomorrow is here shit let me tell you something.
Speaker 2:December came with the swiftness I feel like we was just it was just january.
Speaker 3:Talk about yeah december is almost over and it's like what you know what, throw 2024 away.
Speaker 1:So throw it away um. I mean yeah, yeah there was a lot of them but I will say um, I am pulling myself out of the funk that I've been in and I'm trying to get my life back on track. And in order to get back on track, I'd have to actively sit here at this desk and stare at my screen or move my pointer until something clicks, or else I would go back on that nice, wonderful place there, that island, comfort island, the couch. For those of you who are listening, comfort island, indeed, baby.
Speaker 3:You see where I am, I'm in, I'm in, I'm in um what's another? Uh, you're in in Blair's bed and breakfast damn, I was trying to think of another tundra, other than island, like another massive land besides an island. That's cold, that's cold.
Speaker 2:No, huh, that's cold.
Speaker 3:No, this is land.
Speaker 1:America.
Speaker 3:Comfort America don't work. You think you're in Comfort Island, I'm in Comfort.
Speaker 1:You're in a Comfort Cloud.
Speaker 3:I'm in a comfort cloud. Thank you, PJ.
Speaker 1:And Chris is in the comfort sky as he has the blue screen behind him. It has been a while. Y'all as you know, we do this and in this, while we have a globetrotting superstar sitting with us, tell us about your experience. Oh, if you didn't know, I was talking about Red.
Speaker 2:He is the globetrotting superstar, I'm glad that you feel me in it, because I'm all like.
Speaker 3:I'm like, yes, I'm looking at you.
Speaker 2:Please answer the question. To be fair, we're all looking at each each other, so I don't even want to hear it it was a whole spider-man uh situation over here right no, but no really tell us about your trip to ghana?
Speaker 2:my trip to ghana. Um, so, like I was mentioning to a couple people, I think, uh, people, when they think about vacations, they think about, oh my God, I want a beach, a pool, you know a lot of like, a lot of partying, you know, you think of stuff like that as a vacation. I think that a lot of people don't look at vacation as also those opportunities for you to go to other countries, other places, just to experience different things, different people, different cultures, and, um, that's what I kind of did there. Um, for I guess some of you know, but I went out there for my best friend's mother's 70th birthday, and so that was a really amazing moment because they really made it big and really celebrated her. It was almost like 370 people, 370 people at the event center that they had it at. It was very. First of all, the community loved up on her like no other. It was amazing. She had beautiful dresses made for her, beautiful kente dresses that she took pictures in, and we just had a really good time. It was a lot of really good food, a lot of family time, because they're very family-centered over there and I could really appreciate that. Ganyan's very, very, very polite. They always start everything with please and thank you, no matter what happens. You could be in an argument, pull out and they'd be like thank you, please, which I think is beautiful, because I think it just keeps them level-headed.
Speaker 2:Um, I went to church. Over there I saw a guy in church. So you know, you know I was there for a guy in service and then, even though I was having like a really good time there just being with family, I also got to experience the um, the some of the slave trade routes. So I was there for I went to the place where they had the last bath. I went to the castles and dungeons where they held the slaves. I went to the guardian bridges, which was over like on top of the, on top of the forest, to walk around. It's kind of like a circuit that you do and that that whole experience was so emotional for me. So emotional, I mean I went over there knowing from everything that we've been taught what transpired, but to be in the actual place and then actually see those very awful and very tragic and atrocious moments happen and to see kids there was a village when we were.
Speaker 2:This is, in particular. This was at the last bath when we were walking to the last bath, there's a village with with a child that was probably as young as maybe three or four years old, and a kid that you know kids that went all the way up to 13 and then, like the grandmother that was there, and we had a whole moment, me and this kid, which was the youngest kid that was there, his, his name was Kofi. So he like waved at me. I waved back. He was just like my name is Kofi, what's your name? And I was like Chris. He was like Chris, kofi, kofi, chris, and like it was like a whole moment.
Speaker 2:You know to connect, just because he was just a kid and I told people I have a kids have a very special place in my heart and when I saw the last bath and I was walking back seeing the kids there, I just broke out into tears because yeah, no, no, I mean I it was. It was a lot, because I know of all the stuff. We know of all the stuff that was done to men and women. These are adults and now you're just seeing four-year-old kids that probably didn't have anything to do. The only thing that they know is four years of their life, and you know that they probably did some very famous things to them and I mean I could not stop crying you know, I've always wondered um what what Africa does, or any African nation does in in representing, uh, the Atlantic slave trade?
Speaker 1:um, because they they've been called that they've been colonialized as well.
Speaker 2:But I'm always curious to see if it's, if it's still, if I'm curious to see if it's the erasure of what happened versus here's what happened well, you know, it's funny that you bring that up, because when we went to the castle and we was with the tour guide there, they were talking about how, like in the books, they say something about like 12.7 million people were shipped to the new world, wherever that may be, whether it be the United States, the Caribbean, parts of Central South America but they actually don't know the exact numbers because that's just the people that actually, first of all, it probably wasn't even accurate, but those are just the people that were just shipped. They're estimating about two. That's only a third of all the people that had their lives impacted in some shape or form. The rest died on their way there and so they're supposed to be having a great time.
Speaker 2:But I think it was necessary for me to connect and see that because it's different. You can read all the books that you want to over here, but it's different when you're in that place and you're standing in that river and you can see where a young lady is trying to escape for her life because she doesn't want to be raped, the random person over here who is just dead and is not receiving a proper burial. And it was. It was just, it was a lot. It was a lot and the group that I went with, which was with my, my friends um, we talked about that at the end of the day and when I tell you, it was so important that we talked about it, but it was also, you could tell we were white and we're just completely white because it's very heavy. That's just a dig some of these people.
Speaker 2:They was in the dungeon for months with nothing that's like going to.
Speaker 1:Well, it's not like it because there's no comparison, but it's a similar sensation going to. Is it the National Museum of African American History in DC?
Speaker 3:If you, you know, start at the top and work your way down to the bottom, cause starting at the bottom it's heavy, you know, and I mean it is heavy, but like there also might be like something to it, like you see it, like it's, you know it's, it's a timeline, like you see, like where it started and gradually, like what what we, you know, transformed into.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's, that's that Well, I mean, that's the the idea of like learning what the foundation is and then going, but Huh.
Speaker 2:Sankofa.
Speaker 3:Sankofa Oha, oh my god. I remember seeing. Oh my gosh, you guys, it's almost time for kwanzaa. It's almost time for kwanzaa. It's almost time for kwanzaa.
Speaker 1:It's almost time for kwanzaa koogee jagalia.
Speaker 3:So by the time this episode, uh will be aired.
Speaker 1:Happy kwanzaa everybody. By the time this episode will be aired, it will be appropriate to say sleigh bells ring, are you listening?
Speaker 3:snow is glistening. Come on, come on. Beautiful side.
Speaker 1:We're happy tonight walking in a winter wonderland so it is safe to talk about it now, as this will come out once this is already done. So, blair, tomorrow is the day. Yesterday was the day, or when the episode comes out, what's happening. The day will have was the day, or whenever the episode comes out, what's happening.
Speaker 3:The day will have passed.
Speaker 1:The day will have passed. What's happening? I'm talking about.
Speaker 3:What are you talking about? He's being facetious.
Speaker 1:Why don't you tell us Blair, I'm excited.
Speaker 2:I'm excited for you. Thank us, blair. I'm excited, I'm excited for you.
Speaker 3:I'm excited for you, thank you long story short because it's quite a long story, but I produced my first filmed project. It's a recreation of a scene from an episode of Living Single, one of my favorite scenes ever. It's from season one. It's the Christmas episode where everybody comes over to the brownstone and they're all there at Sinclair's doing to decorate the tree and then all of them end up leaving for whatever reason and then the episode continues. But I think most people know that scene because it is iconic, as PJ just started off Because you've got Queen Latifah starting off the caroling, if you will and then she starts beatboxing and Kyle sings in only the way that Kyle can, and then it's just.
Speaker 3:You know, it's just, it's it's, it's just. You know, black TV history, cinematic joyfulness and all that fun stuff. So I got some of my so I got some of my best actor friends together and hired a production crew and, you know, kind of idealized this whole thing out and we filmed it and it's available on YouTube. If you go to Blair Tate YouTube page, you will see it there. Blair Tate YouTube page you will see it there and it is the first of more to come now.
Speaker 1:I want to drop this in here because, number one we love Blair. We love you so much. But I want you to know we are so proud of you. Oh, thank you, I'm working up the nerve for you to get the tissue.
Speaker 3:How dare you? I will not.
Speaker 1:You are an amazing human. You are a renaissance woman, as I said earlier, actor, writer, model, podcast host, superstar and now director and producer.
Speaker 2:What can she do?
Speaker 1:You are the epitome of everything I want to be when I grow up, as far as your drive and your ambition. Secondly, I want all you listeners to know out there that this was not some rinky-dink like, all right, we got some cameras, you know. All right, we're going to do this. No, this was an actual production like a full-on call sheets uh times cameras, cameras lighting sound.
Speaker 1:Uh a a lunch break boom mics okay this was a clapperboard okay, and and to be also in the space with other amazing creators was actually really important, but it can only really be as important, especially to me, because this space was created by you, and thank you so much for including. I'm not going to speak for Chris, but thank you so much for including me in this journey of yours. I had such an amazing time and I'm so excited um to see what this, what becomes of this, you know everything everything and here's, thank you.
Speaker 1:thank you bringing that, for bringing that thought back, because I am so glad it's been on like timeline, have you?
Speaker 3:noticed that I was like what is going on here?
Speaker 2:People believe in the beat. You gotta get the people what they want. People believe in the beat Wait, wait, wait. It's provocative.
Speaker 1:It keeps the guys going Right, right Ball so hard Okay, but I do. I would appreciate. It's provocative, it's keep the guys going yeah, right, right Ball so hard Okay, but I do. I mean like I would appreciate that much more than it's time, even though that's what you were doing.
Speaker 3:I did it, I did it.
Speaker 1:But I am so proud of you, blair. I just know that all great things are going to come from this, whether it's birth into other children, or this child grows into something big. Just know that this part of your journey itself is you walking into your power? Because, when I tell you, you are a force on a set that you are in charge of, because this lady's in charge y'all there is no, excuse me for a woman.
Speaker 1:I'll get back to you on that. There is an answer for every question you know on the spot and that's why I even wrote down. This is a safe space to let your ocd do what it does, because sometimes we need to let you know, because that's really my ocd was is like everything mapped out.
Speaker 3:There was a lot, of, a lot of planning that went into it, a lot of planning, um. But that's that's I. That's just how I feel like. I feel like if you, if you, if you fail to plan, you plan to fail.
Speaker 1:So come on now. If you fail to plan, you plan to fail what?
Speaker 2:if you plan to fail, does it go? Go the other way? Never mind, I don't answer that question.
Speaker 1:I sometimes wake up wanting to do the most, but I actually do the least. That may not be similar.
Speaker 2:That's me.
Speaker 1:I'm going to get you started on this episode saying Meaning by do the least like you know, comfort Island has been really resourceful.
Speaker 3:Exactly, that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:Okay, so restorative is a good word, restorative and so you know, restorative, like doing the project and I'm going to keep mentioning this, of course, again because you guys can go check it out now.
Speaker 1:It's available on YouTube that kind of re-sparked some things in me, kind of re-sparked some things in me, and I even started getting back to work, back to procrastination, as we were originally talking about Started getting back into editing for like this audio book and stuff like that, when, of course, this happened excuse me, this happened with one of my clients. I was working on her her podcast and every episode that she was I was editing. In that moment I needed it, um, and this was like her business podcast, but it was like regular stuff that she was talking about with other black women, um. So listening to olu go through all of his uh guided meditation and really brought back some things, and re-censoring myself in the space of creativity that was created by none other than Blair Tate with hey Girl, hey Productions.
Speaker 2:Hey, girl, hey, I just want to say I mean I won't be as long-winded because everything, the sentiments, everything that PJ has said is the exact same. I just want you to know I talk about you a lot. I talk about I talk about you a lot. I talk about the two of you a lot. Anybody that means a lot to me. I always bring them up in conversation and so, because this is your moment, blair, I just want you to know I always talk about you, hence why? You know the thing where I said we need to get up later for meeting up next weekend, up later for, uh, meeting up next weekend. So I was like, you know, I always say that you're so talented and you're such an amazing person, you have such an amazing personality. So this is not just because you did this, um, it's always been, and so I'm excited because it's always been. You always had it.
Speaker 2:My favorite quote and I'll stop here with the lovey-dovey stuff, but my favorite quote these days is my favorite quote these days is if you fight so hard for it now, it's probably because your future self already has it.
Speaker 3:Ooh, ooh, a word hard for it now. It's probably because your future self already has it a word.
Speaker 2:So while we sit here and we fight in okay, and we have our moments because we busy or whatever just remember you're probably doing it because your future self already has it.
Speaker 1:I love that and you have to always remember, um, that you are the one, the number one.
Speaker 3:Don't even waste your time trying the only one oh, the only one, don't even waste your time trying to compete with me. With me, no one else in this world can think like me. I'm twisted, I'm contradicted. Keep him addicted. Eyes on his licks. I lick it, you nick.
Speaker 1:Hey, Bianca, hey girl hey girl hey For hey Girl hey Productions.
Speaker 3:Hey, girl, hey, I just appreciate both of you guys being there and being so amazing and being so into it.
Speaker 3:I think that's the thing that has like not surprised me the most, but is it really like fulfilled me the most is like I know I was excited about this because it's like a dream realized, because I've had this idea in my head forever and so now it's finally like out of my head and in the world. But the fact that everybody who has been involved with it is just as excited as I am, like it takes the whole experience like a totally different level, like people like it was just, it was really, it really meant a lot, like, um, that night, after we got done like filming and like came home, I remember I took a screenshot of it because I was like this is just so amazing. Um, I've always been, it's always been a goal of mine to, you know, pull from around me. You know, I, I, I firmly believe that there's room at the top for everybody and we can, you know, lift as we climb, so to say, and, um, one of the one of the other actors, where is it? Um?
Speaker 2:Oh, where is it? Hold on.
Speaker 3:Where did I put it? Oh, yes, one of the other actors um texted me, um, that night after we got home and they said you know, thank you again for bringing me on. I really appreciate you believing in me. This is exactly what I needed to stand a little taller and feel grounded in acting, thank you. And I was like that, really like I was like wow, like I don't know that that that kind of did something to me where I was just like this is part of what I want my you know, my reach to be is to encourage other people, like in their skills, and I firmly believe that there's room at the top for all of us. We all, just we just need a chance. You know, we just need a shot, and if I can provide a platform for people to be able to do what it is that they love, I love that.
Speaker 3:So the fact that, like everybody, everybody who's been involved in this project, is so excited about it, like you guys know, like the photographer that was there, you know, like I work with her, she's a friend of mine, but she's like a photographer, like by trade, and like she's so she's every day she's been checking in, you know, she's so hyped she's been checking in. You know she's so hyped, she's like so ready to go. And I was just like wow, like you know, like just that night, you know the next day, like people are already sending me, like the videographer was already sending me like like rough draft edits. You know she was already sending me, you know the photos and stuff, and I was like everybody is like like really just so responsive to it, which really means a lot to me so I think I let off this year.
Speaker 1:The word that I chose for the beginning of the year was impact and um I. I can honestly say that I've fallen off of that, that, that wagon, a few times this year. Um, but I have gotten on the wagon of other people creating impact in this world, um. So back to the lovey-dovey stuff um blair, um I I. I am just astonished about, I am so impressed by your work, ethic number one, um, so I just want you to know that, no matter what this project does, no matter what um we think it should be know that you created a space and it's wonderful when you create spaces um that felt safe for other people other than you. Better cough it out, girl on mute um others, safe spaces for, for people who are actors, who are working in production, um, who need that, and you realize it later down the road that you, you did have an impact on all of us, whether you know it or not and that's the thing.
Speaker 3:I know it because you guys told me so.
Speaker 1:Thank you all right, my goal is to make you cry, so another thing no. I can't take it. We just appreciate you. That's all like it's. It's, it's a. There comes a time in life where where we want to feel appreciated and we want to be given the, and you take them.
Speaker 2:Not her taking with her. She's taking the roses without looking guys.
Speaker 1:One by one, but yeah.
Speaker 3:Thank you, that means a lot. I'm not going to cry, but thank you, I'll cry when'm not gonna cry.
Speaker 2:But thank you.
Speaker 3:I'll cry when we're done, when we get off that's no fun how dare you not? You with the tissues at the ready? What's that gonna do?
Speaker 2:here you go bring that eye close to the camera thank you now let me fold this back and use this later exactly.
Speaker 3:Don't waste some good tissues now.
Speaker 1:It's expensive, I mean.
Speaker 3:I mean we really just wanted to just catch up real quick, since we didn't record last week. I mean, we're just here y'all. We're just here. Did you have a question of?
Speaker 2:the week exactly you know what it's funny I did and then what happened? What I find is because, uh, we're running around I don't always write it down, but different ones will pop out in and out of my head throughout the day and then I I sit here and I look like that I haven't been thinking about it at all.
Speaker 1:So what do you mean? Does it like you had it clear as day and all of a sudden the train left the station?
Speaker 2:No, no, no. Nothing like yours. This train is never there.
Speaker 3:Be, nice.
Speaker 1:Oh, this is how brothers talk to each other.
Speaker 2:Okay, you should hear how you talk on Fortnite.
Speaker 1:You know it's so funny while we're like catching up and stuff. I never thought that I would become a fortnight type of thing. I never thought and I figured I was gonna be call of duty, bioshock, final fantasy, all these things. No, fortnight is where it's at for me and here you are.
Speaker 2:Yep, yep, here you are, so you're getting on after this, because I need to decompress.
Speaker 1:I've been decompressing a lot and it got to the point where I was. I said this to someone yesterday. So I was in the city and I was getting ready to get back on the train to head home. And I'm about to get on the train and I'm standing outside talking on the phone. And I'm standing on outside talking on the phone, I'm not talking on the phone, I'm scrolling through TikTok lies all because of Blair, by the way. Thank you so much, blair, for all of the impact you have given. Um, if it wasn't for you, I would not have been on TikTok. Um, this is true, okay. And so I was looking across the street and it was like this uh window, but it was glowing gold. So I walked across the street like it was a gold chest in fortnight, like what's in there?
Speaker 2:oh no, it's just the light I've done that before, phillip, yes, no, don't, don't, don't.
Speaker 1:You would do the same thing too.
Speaker 2:Phillip, I've done it too. I've been walking down the street and like I light up and I'm like, ooh, did you put it in there as?
Speaker 1:Phillip James, by the way.
Speaker 3:I believe so.
Speaker 1:Yes, because PJ Ron is dead. Well, he's not dead, he's on a long lost island somewhere. Because, going forward, once the new year hit, my new email address is I am Philip James ooh yes, philip James, is this a new story arc for all three of us?
Speaker 2:I am Philip James. Ooh yes, philip James, is this a new story arc for all three of us? I'm low-key excited because we've all been doing some stuff.
Speaker 1:Well, I haven't been doing some stuff, no no, you have been.
Speaker 2:You just don't want to think of it as that you have been. Don't let me, freaking, shoot you in your head in Fortnite. Okay, pew, pew. Wait, wait wait, that's in Fortnite.
Speaker 1:See how we get there.
Speaker 3:I still don't like it.
Speaker 2:Okay, we'll shoot you in your leg. There you go I don't like that either.
Speaker 3:You have to shoot each other. Well, you have to shoot something. That's the point of Fortnite shoot each other.
Speaker 2:Well, you have to shoot something. That's the point. You have to shoot each other. Well, I'll shoot the tree next to you.
Speaker 1:Hold on a second. Let's see if this will work.
Speaker 3:And then, what is this? Is this a song from fortnite?
Speaker 1:no, but I'm going to play that with no. That's missy, by the way, the whole entire I'm like what is this?
Speaker 3:I?
Speaker 1:can't even believe that they have not done a Missy character yet. But no, that's. I have a specific playlist that's called speed demon, that when I feel like I'm speeding, I play. And I also have a playlist for when I'm speeding I play never told me that what speed demon?
Speaker 2:no, that you had a specific playlist. But when you're playing fortnite yeah, you've never told me that.
Speaker 3:Don't say it matter of factly, like yeah, yeah, yeah yeah, yeah you ain't know clearly not no, because you know what.
Speaker 1:So remember, I was telling you about the group that I played with before um and they played with another group, wow ladies and gentlemen, uh, don't fall for this, all right where's the loyalty?
Speaker 3:and he's?
Speaker 1:being a typical leo in this moment because it has to all be about him.
Speaker 2:I did say this.
Speaker 1:I did say this before, but the group that I play with I work better as a duo or a solo by myself, so like it works with us, with just us who's us define us BJ his other friends?
Speaker 2:yeah, probably one of the other two. Split them off into four. I see where you're going with this one of them is our frat brother.
Speaker 1:Yes, um. However who?
Speaker 3:which one betrayed you with one of his own? What one of you?
Speaker 1:are not, not not one of his own, one of your own, not one of his own. But understand this it's the deep breath for me you are one, you are number one, you are the only one. You already lied you already lied.
Speaker 2:You lied Maxine Shaw, attorney at law Maxine Shaw.
Speaker 3:Attorney at law. Maxine Shaw. Attorney at law. Guilty Guilty.
Speaker 1:Back to Maxine Shaw, attorney at law, Guilty. So okay, so back to that. What is the one lesson that you've learned so far about yourself doing this new project?
Speaker 2:That I'll be betrayed by some. You're on mute.
Speaker 3:Be betrayed by one of your own Right right.
Speaker 1:No, back to you, Blair. Yes.
Speaker 3:I think the thing that I learned was to always make sure to stick to the plan. There was one point where I deviated from the plan and I and I and I'm a micromanager, I am and I'm trying to uh let go of that, especially in a world like this, where you can't like manage, like everything, and I think I made the decision to let go of some of the things that I should not have let go of. And, um, now I know like the whole thing is like during our lunch break, I was supposed to sit there and review the footage to make sure there weren't any pickups that we needed to do, and it got to the point where I was just kind of like oh, I was like I trust you guys that we went through the shot list and got everything and it ended up being that we had missed something. So I know cause, I know the scene front and back, up and down, left right inside out.
Speaker 3:If I had watched the scenes like I was supposed to during lunch and I would have noticed that we missed something and we could have shot it. We could have moved forward with the pickups like we had planned to do. So it's. It's not anybody's fault, it's just it's for me to know it's somebody's fault.
Speaker 3:Someone must take ownership for it it's not that it's somebody's fault, it's just that okay. I know that I need to stick to the original plan and not deviate from that. If there isn't a reason to, I get that. Sometimes you need to do something on the fly or you need to change or you need to shift directions because something happened. But the only reason why I didn't sit there and watch the footage was because I was like oh okay, I believe you guys, we got it. Nothing happened where it was like I don't have time to do it or something else is calling my attention away or whatever.
Speaker 1:So okay so understand when I say this. I I say this to a micromanager, so understand why I'm saying it. Everything has to be accounted for, so there has to be a reason why it didn't get done, and so, going forward, you will do what Further? Micromanage. Be on top of everybody.
Speaker 3:No, it's not that it's. It's, I think, my thing. Like I said, like I was, I let go of the wrong things. Like I did. I know I did everything that I needed to do to set everybody else up so that they could do what they needed to do. And instead of taking a moment to confer with everybody and review that process and check in with everybody, I was just kind of like, okay, we just moved on to the next thing. I think that there should have been a moment where we did kind of come together in that moment and gone through just kind of like a checks and balances kind of thing. So, yes, micromanaging in a way, but not so much like hey, let me check your work, let me check your work, let me check your work, let me check your work more. So like, hey, let's all convene and make sure everybody's good with everything they need to be good with before we move on to the next thing so can I make a suggestion?
Speaker 1:Sure, hey y'all, welcome to PJ's Unaxed Opinion. What might help is for you to get a second AD, and the second AD is responsible for everything that you are responsible for. So to make sure that you know to do, or like they're your assistant, but even like they're just dedicated to you, versus the whole day you know, I would.
Speaker 2:I kind of agree, because I don't think that the solution is necessarily further my mental management. I think you should be getting away from that. And it's hard because no one's going to do the work you do like the way that you do it. This is part of the problem that I'm facing up my regular job right now, because only I know the stuff that I know based on the experiences that I've had. But it's not fair to me because I get home late or I now have to do all the work or I can't divvy up the way that I need to. So, while you should stick to the plan, I think that the plan sticking should be also you planning to not micromanage as much and then coming up with solutions that allow you to effectively reach your goal.
Speaker 1:Speaking of plan, I do want to bring up and this is completely off topic maybe this is my first time paying attention and seeing this, but uh, shout out to a chris who went to ghana and came back and decided to put parts in his head, so now he has a whole young man part on his side I don't think I have ever seen you with that part. I've seen you with a part before I don't Okay, maybe, maybe I wasn't micromanaging your looks at that moment.
Speaker 2:It sounds like that you were busy with your other friends in Fortnite. That's what it sounds like, of course.
Speaker 1:Thank you for taking the time and. I know we end because PJ just got just handed it to me, goodness suspect doesn't like being called on their bullshit suspect knows everybody's shit but doesn't like to be called on his own bullshit you know what? And I actually I received that thank you and no, however, comma.
Speaker 2:Thank you and I ain't saying all that shit. You're welcome.
Speaker 1:Welcome, nigga okay, I do need to be called out on my bullshit and do need to be okay with it. Um, no more. No more being the goose or the gander, but anyway, guys, thank you for taking the time to listen to another episode of highly motherfucking, malinated uh. The safe space where it's okay to go off the rails, but get back on, get your ocd together and let's get this shit done period.
Speaker 2:Do you owe any for those that needed the spelling?
Speaker 1:mind you, I had to spell it in my head as you were spelling it, to make sure that you were spelling it right.
Speaker 3:That was me being a micromanager too and you see how you wasted your time remember back when we used to do the five senses and PJ would always try to check me on making sure I had all five, but he didn't know what the five were. Very reminiscent of that he's saying taste twice.
Speaker 1:Okay, scent wait two. There's five senses which are to taste, smell, see, hear and feel there you go.
Speaker 3:Five years later you finally got it. Listen five years ago he said speak, not five years later, five years later, five years ago, you said speak Now that we no longer do that segment, now that we no longer do it, you finally got it. See, taste, taste again, taste, feel, taste again, taste, feel, taste it twice.
Speaker 1:I'm feeling attacked.
Speaker 3:The safe space where it's okay to playfully attack one another, unlike what y'all do in Fortnite. We're shooting each other in the head.
Speaker 2:To be fair, we're shooting other people. We're shooting other people.
Speaker 3:I still don't like it, you will Goodbye. He still don't like it, you will Goodbye. He's about to go play Y'all. Go play y'all little game, the safe space where it's okay to love. We said that already.
Speaker 1:Love peace and the safe space where it's okay to decompress with something that gets your mind off of the shit.
Speaker 2:I know, I just wanted the reaction from Blair. How?
Speaker 1:dare you.
Speaker 2:The safe space where we could all kill together. No, no, no.
Speaker 3:You have enough troubles in the world. My god Alright, love peace and watch the single on YouTube. Thanks bye. My god alright, love peace and watch the single on youtube.
Speaker 1:thanks bye hey, where can everybody go one more time?
Speaker 3:um you can go to, let me tell you the exact hold on, please https.
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Speaker 2:Cause you ain't going nowhere if you put two dots.
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Speaker 3:Subscribe, do all the things.
Speaker 1:Please Send everyone the wonderful thing, the most important thing, especially about new things like this, is the engagement when it first begins. So, we want you to talk to us, we want you to reach out to us and we want you to tell us how great Blair is, because she needs to know this, because she is.
Speaker 3:Will you stop it now?
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, tell us, tell us, or else.
Speaker 1:Play the game.
Speaker 3:Hopefully it's no one else. Thank you.