Highly Melanated Podcast
Hosted by PJ, Blair & Red A safe space for you to enjoy every bit of your melanin no matter how "melanated" you are in skin tone, we are ALL Highly Melanated.Come enjoy funny and dynamic conversations that people of color face on a day to day basis with various topics such as loving ourselves, knowing who we are as a people and uplifting each other with a mix of class and rachetness (CLATCHETNESS)
Highly Melanated Podcast
Keep Our Ears Out of the Chat: Respect, Revelations, and Relationships
What happens when we shine a light on the toxic behaviors in our relationships and the importance of setting personal boundaries? This episode is a rollercoaster ride through the maze of intimacy, respect, and the complexities of human dynamics. We dissect the concept of unconditional love and dive into the intriguing domain of personal kinks. Hear about his profound experiences with biodiversity, and why he's pumped up for the Libra season.
Could celebrities be using their public personas to gain sympathy? We unravel this topic as we discuss Jada Pinkett Smith's public revelations about her marriage. We consider the motivations behind such public exposure of personal information and question the potential consequences. Our conversation navigates through the realm of social media reactions, the implications of oversharing, and the intriguing world of celebrities.
We wrap up with a powerful dialogue on the importance of building supportive communities and maintaining personal boundaries. We argue the urgent necessity to halt the idolization of others' relationships and careers. Emphasizing the need to understand the impact of our actions, we stress the significance of time and place in personal conversations.
As we conclude, our thoughts go out to the current situation in Israel and Palestine, sending our prayers to all those affected. So buckle up for an enlightening discussion, sprinkled with laughs, candid revelations, and thought-provoking insights.
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Our union is a sloppy public experiment. It is a sloppy public experiment in unconditional love. Can you love somebody forever, no matter what. Oh boy it was like yeah, I'm sorry. I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry. You know, can you show up and love somebody for the rest of your life, even when you don't agree with them? And there ain't nobody on earth said you mommy, you mommy, my mommy, I wasn't this young, I wasn't this young.
Speaker 2:I wasn't this young. You, mommy, nobody, nobody. Shut up and do more than you, mommy.
Speaker 1:James is the best friend I have ever had on this planet and I'm going to show up for her and support her for the rest of my life. I was like. I was like I was like in Puppet New Guinea. I was on the other side of the world for the last three weeks. I didn't have no service. I didn't have service.
Speaker 1:I was with someone now and I was with a linguist and a marine biologist and we were studying the relationship between biodiversity and diversity of language Right, so I didn't have my phone on and then I landed in Sydney at my phone. I was thinking she's damn work. I was like I don't remember.
Speaker 4:I don't know what it is, but I just love being black.
Speaker 3:It's your boy, red, and you're listening to the Highly Melanated Podcast.
Speaker 4:Where was this random person? Is that family stuff?
Speaker 3:She's not family, but yes.
Speaker 4:I'm telling you right now because I remember going through when grandma died and our Karen had the things, the photo albums, and all flipping through them.
Speaker 3:I don't know if it's because of her, but I don't know if it's because of her.
Speaker 5:I don't know if it's because of her. I don't know if it's because of her.
Speaker 3:I don't know if it's because of her. I don't know if it's because of her. I don't know if it's because of her.
Speaker 5:She is.
Speaker 4:Hey guys, welcome back to another episode of Highly Melanated Podcast, the same space where it's okay to admit it, most of us, all of us, have white in us.
Speaker 3:The same space to always admit and apologize to PJ's there. See how he does.
Speaker 4:See how he does, leoing it up to the full extent.
Speaker 3:All in Libra season.
Speaker 4:We are still a weekend. By the time you guys get this on Friday, a week will pass. Pj is overjoyed with Jubilee and Sunshine.
Speaker 5:He's got a lot of stuff to say. He's got a lot of things to say. So, as Blair said earlier, someone's bussy Wow.
Speaker 4:You can't say that and not give the context.
Speaker 5:That's what we're not going to do, we're not going to use that anyway Okay. Wonderful.
Speaker 4:PJ is just in a really good mood and also, at the same time, is ready to take another nap.
Speaker 3:Okay, well, red, I took a 20 minute nap before I got on because y'all wasn't about to see me. I needed to reset my batteries, red.
Speaker 5:And Blair is starving right now. I am every bit of the word ravenous, so I apologize in advance that affects my performance during this podcast.
Speaker 4:Wait. So would you like to go into further detail about why?
Speaker 5:No.
Speaker 3:I'm going to try to make me explain.
Speaker 4:No, I am not. I'm talking about your how hungry, because you're you just talking about from Walgreens. Oh I can say that shit.
Speaker 5:That's fine. We can skirt pass it. I will let Walgreens live. At least we'll see until what happens after I call to give my comment, because they guarantee 100% satisfaction and I am not 100% satisfied, so we'll see what their response is. I'll have an update for y'all next week, remind me.
Speaker 4:Before we started the episode, I did want to address one thing, and I think we've done this before, and two things can exist at the same time. I think we can do this without. It would be regardless of how many times I speak on other unmelanated individuals I hold no ill will or anything towards anyone and the idea of what we have been experiencing with Israel and Palestine I'm not going to go into too detail, too much about it, because it's sad, it's depressing, it's starting to take toll again. It's starting to feel like how we felt with George Floyd, but it's on a different level, not in comparison at all, but just the idea of seeing all these bodies and everything happening. So my prayers and everything goes out to and two can exist at the same time. Both are dying, but they're not in comparison at all. I'll understand why, though. We could handle this. It's very sad. It gets the into more of these kinds of things. That's why ан we are risking to talk about July. So what we're doing is we're helping the people we love there.
Speaker 4:No-transcript to add, if you want to, but I think that it's good to have some laughter through it all. So, even though we may not talk about the serious, serious things that's going on in the world. As far as you guys know, y'all don't come here for public for, like you know, world events and shit like that. That's not what y'all here for. We know who y'all are, but we don't want to act like it doesn't exist and it doesn't, it does not not happen. So I did want to send, on behalf of the podcast, send my prayers and everything out to all of the families of all the many of lives lost. War is not the answer, but guess what? America, we will be going probably to war pretty soon.
Speaker 3:My sentiments are the same, you know, like I think it's very sad that we just can't come to an understanding and an agreement and a compromise. So my heart goes out to everybody on both sides, and life is life.
Speaker 5:Well that, yeah, that's kind of just what I would say is just it, just I really don't enjoy speaking on it, so that's why I didn't say anything. But it's just very frustrating for me, and so I didn't want to speak on it, because every time I do a cry, just the disregard that people have for human life is just beyond my comprehension.
Speaker 3:So no, so, question a week. Question a week. Question a week. Your question is, as they pertain to you respectively and introspectively, we're going to try and make this a little lighter note, like PJ had mentioned before, we you don't come here for world news per se, but I do want to make it, you know, a little bit more lighthearted. And I want to know, since we kind of talked about it or we kind of dabbled into it last week, because of all the will and Jada stuff that's been going on, I can't get away from it. It's so annoying, it's pissing me off. Like every time I open it up I see Jada. Every time I open it up with Will or or or Dwayne, I can't be bothered. So question a week what is something that you love in a relationship that is toxic as fuck?
Speaker 4:Okay, okay, Okay. I see where we're doing today on tonight.
Speaker 3:On tonight. Who would like to start, ladies first Ladies first.
Speaker 5:God, I mean. First of all, let me just purpose this by saying I don't enjoy toxicity in any shape or form. But I see where you're going with this.
Speaker 3:You sure there's nothing that you like that's toxic.
Speaker 5:I see where you're going with this. I am going to say it's not. It has the potential to be toxic if it's taken there, but I enjoy it in the in, in the light Crosses over into toxic behavior. I love it. I'm just saying, when a guy is like possessive Again before it gets to be toxic. But like when I was talking to the guy I was dating I'm dating earlier today and we were on video chat and we were cracking jokes back and forth, you know just kind of kiki ha ha.
Speaker 5:And then you know how, like you're in the midst of a joke with somebody and you just keep the joke going, keep the joke going, keep the joke going. And then at one point I forget, oh, my God, and I can't remember what it was, but it was something about like oh, that's what it was. I remember now we were having a conversation about like when people lie to you, they look everywhere but at you. So we were doing that like in the midst of the joke, like we were like keeping the joke going and like demonstrating it, and I'm over here, like yeah, I don't know what you're talking about, and I'm like flitting my eyes like all over the place, everywhere but the screen and then he goes hey, look at me, you know who. So he was your lover. Oh, like it was that authoritative, like you gonna do what I say, kind of. But again, like I said, this is still in the realm of you know, of borderline, not because he was doing it as part of the joke, playful, but also like, do you understand?
Speaker 1:what.
Speaker 5:I'm saying Like oh.
Speaker 1:Cause, you know, wait, let me give me a hard time.
Speaker 5:But like I don't, I don't enjoy real toxicity, I enjoy playful, fake pretend toxicity.
Speaker 4:Yo, that just all I heard as you was talking was, whatever his character's name was in, fall for grace when he said that's all I heard. I just kept hearing, that will repeat that's right.
Speaker 5:I'm sorry, I'm weak.
Speaker 4:I know you don't mean that, though that's disrespect.
Speaker 5:It's toxic, that is. And I don't like that because he was not playing, he was for real. No, I like a good jokie joke, as long as we are both on the under understanding that it is a jokie joke. Hmm, I don't.
Speaker 4:This is a really interesting question. I don't think I can think of anything. I don't, but OK, you know what. We're going to take a step up.
Speaker 3:I don't like. You found something.
Speaker 4:Because this borderline, but this, this borderlines what Blair was saying, but at the next range. So I like All right, I'm so bashful to say this, but I like to be humiliated. And there, and when I say like humiliated, I mean like degraded, like, if I'm in that kind of mood, I'm in that kind of mood, like, no matter what position it is, you can be, just, you know, talk dirty to me, right, but hey, now, whoa, wait, that's not cool. You know, like borderlines, but you, I've learned that when it comes to everything goes.
Speaker 4:I mean everything goes back to the sex with me, right. So, example you let let's say, let's say I'm being written Right, and he's, he starts saying things that obviously aren't true. It's the look of your both your faces. Listen, I don't even know how this is. This is a lot of PJ that this kind of like ties it to the conversation, I guess.
Speaker 4:But there are parts of me that like to you know what I mean. I like to be you dirty little fucking slut. Like I like shit, like that, like I like talk dirty to me, call me names, call me a stupid motherfucker. I made a mistake and this is how you're taking that on me, like if you're riding me and you snatch it out of me and you say you deserve that, you dumb bitch, for what you. You know like yeah, so it's it, but it's hey, now, whoa, pause, pineapple.
Speaker 4:You know like there is a there is a safe word type of situation that can be toxic, depending on who's the person doing it not knowing when to stop, and or if the person who is coming me but not me I'm using my one of my exes as an example came from an abusive relationship and because I didn't want to hit him, he, he would often try to make me hit him, especially during sex. How ironic that now, this is what I'm into, but he, he equated it for love. You don't love me, so you don't. I don't equate that shit. I equate that. That's my nasty.
Speaker 5:Enough Nastyness coming out like that's don't love me unless you hit me.
Speaker 4:Yeah, that was. He come from a really abusive, of really abusive background with relationships as well as the men in his family and even his mother. So, like psychologically it was. That's the toxic. That's really toxic because you're feeding into that. I just like it because I'm a kinky person.
Speaker 5:I think that this, this conversation OK, maybe, maybe that's the question that we should have asked, because I feel like we just got into dangerous territory where it's like nobody should like anything toxic. But maybe the question is more so what is your kink? Because what?
Speaker 3:Yeah, this is going as a kink yeah.
Speaker 4:I know so. So my toxicity lies in my sex, and my sex is often kinky. So, and this is now now, we are now moving to red to answer and we are pulling back.
Speaker 3:No, today I got all the answers that I needed. The next time, guys.
Speaker 5:Jay.
Speaker 3:I don't even I can really think of you.
Speaker 4:You better dig deep the way we do Dig deep.
Speaker 3:OK, why do I think so deep? No, let me stop, I think, what. What is toxic to me is actually a couple of things that you like. That you like.
Speaker 5:No, no, no, no no.
Speaker 1:That gets you going.
Speaker 5:Don't try to half answer the question, ok.
Speaker 3:I'm not going to half answer the question or dance around it like some people, but I was trying to figure out a way to say that that's all, jesus Christ.
Speaker 4:I can come right out and say to Nancy, should I want to say, but we not doing that?
Speaker 3:today. Now I hit the alcohol because I definitely wasn't talking about.
Speaker 5:But he was talking about me.
Speaker 3:No, I, so I actually enjoyed like two things that are toxic. One of them is like one of the things that I actually just despise, but like, if you get to pass a certain point, then I'm like, I actually like it because I think that I feel like you're thinking about me. So like that whole thing and I think we talk about it a couple of podcast episodes ago, where we were. We were talking about, like, when people kind of like don't understand, like you're busy and that you have other things to do, but like if we can get to that point where we're in a relationship and you're like, where are you? So it's kind of like along the line of the whole possessive thing. Like you were mentioning Blair, like I want to, like I'm like, oh, they were thinking about me kind of thing, but and that, but that's only slight, but the only the real thing that gets me going is I actually like my ego stroked a little bit.
Speaker 4:You're a Leo, of course you do.
Speaker 5:So you like the opposite of being called a dirty little slight.
Speaker 4:Thank you, good to me, talk nice to me. Yes, make me I am the center. Yes, that's.
Speaker 3:Thank you, libra. Ok, you're welcome. No, but like, if somebody calls me like daddy, like that, that, that, that that sends me, because I immediately start thinking about stuff all day long, so like anything, that's submissive, like you know, and it's where intimate, on that level I go crazy for like bad, like bad, like I will be set all day. What were you doing at work? Today? I do no work.
Speaker 4:I was like, but how bad Like. What do you mean? I don't understand what you mean.
Speaker 3:Like for me. I actually, I actually hate.
Speaker 5:You a flick.
Speaker 3:I actually hate I mean horny, not heat, I shouldn't say that word being in heat, right, like I hate being distracted, like when it's so, when it's so much, and there's been times where I'm just sitting at work, I'm just there at the screen like all right, I need to go, I need some, I need, I need to have some. So, especially if somebody's talking to me or has sent me messages all day and they're being there, they're stroking that part of my ego or forget it.
Speaker 4:Not not using the word stroke as you sit here discusses Like I need to take a break. Y'all hold on. I got a bath. I got to go to the bathroom.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 4:Not. Yeah, pretty much. Ok, shout out to the place of business that you work at.
Speaker 5:This is what you work at.
Speaker 4:You know what?
Speaker 5:Do they have single saw bathrooms or you work I? I think you're fine.
Speaker 3:Da, da, da, da, da Ah.
Speaker 4:Wow, and I'm that note. You know what?
Speaker 5:Yes, I'll definitely.
Speaker 4:That's the thing, it's a matter of fact.
Speaker 5:I will introduce the show today. Ladies and gentlemen, I asked her if she wanted to bring it.
Speaker 4:She said no, she didn't even let me finish my sentence. You, absolutely, I knew this would happen. So good, completely concede you were absolutely correct.
Speaker 5:PJ asked me before we started recording today whether or not I wanted to introduce you to the show. I'm not. I wanted to introduce the topic and I emphatically told him no, and I am a hundred percent backtracking on that because, red, you gave such a perfect transition. Once again, round of applause to you, because that was perfection. So today we are going to be talking about Just what you consider to be Personal business Personal business versus what you consider to be private business Versus what you consider to be public business. And the catalyst to this conversation is I'm sure all of our listeners are well aware Is that miss Jada Pinkett Smith Is out here Telling all her business, all of her business, all the wills business, everybody's business, and the thing is, nobody asked, nobody asked.
Speaker 5:Let's just start there. Let's just start with what your thoughts are on this specific topic, because me personally, I am I'm really annoyed with her. Like I'm really annoyed, like I'm really tired of opening up any type of social engagement app on my phone, and not even just social engagement, like literally opening up Google. And these are like some of the suggested feeds, suggested stories that come up in my feed is I'm really tired of hearing about all her business.
Speaker 5:Nobody needed to know that she and Will have been separated since 2016. Nobody needed to know that they were pretending to be married in the public eye but living two completely separate lives. I feel like they keep she, not even they. She keeps forcing this information on us and I just wanna be taken off the list, serve. I wanna be removed from the group chat. I do not wanna be part of the thread anymore and I can't seem to get away from it and it's really really frustrating me and it's becoming a domino effect, and I'll tell you more about that in a minute. But I just wanna hear from you guys how y'all feel about this.
Speaker 3:Well, I'm sick of it. This is why I kind of thought of that question, because I. So here's the thing. I think we all celebrities have their moments where they wanna put their business out there and show the world what's going on, and maybe that's how they drum up notoriety. And I don't even know, I don't even know at this point, like if that's even the reason why she's doing that. It's almost like she's trying to be hurtful. But I just how often do we have to see this? You know, everything is about her and it seems like she's from how the way the media is portraying it. It seems like she's trying to take him down, trying to take him out, and I just it baffles me, because imagine you being one of the most successful people, successful families in the world, and now everybody has to go through this you, your ex-husband, your kids. They'll never be looked at the same way.
Speaker 5:But they're not even exes, they're still married.
Speaker 3:I just said. I say that just loosely, like it doesn't matter. Even if they were exes, why would you? Why are you creating so much chaos?
Speaker 5:Yeah, why is somebody on your team? They're supposed to be on your team.
Speaker 4:Hey guys, knock, knock, knock, it's me devil's advocate.
Speaker 4:What, what, what, if, and this is a low what if. What if this is their attempt, and I'll put there in it because it's it still represents a union. So, regardless, if she's doing this on her own, it is still they, she's, you know. But what if this is part of not just her going on tour, like her apology tour, her listen to me, look at me. Her, jackie Washington, look at me? But what if this is a way for us to gain sympathy for Will and understand that the amount of pressure and things that he's been having to deal with, this is again a big wolf. Big if, okay, okay, but just imagine, like, from a business standpoint, I can see that be a thing. But here's, here's, and again, like I said, everybody that's a big. If I'm not saying that's the case, just devil's advocate.
Speaker 4:No, I'm sorry devil's advocate. There we go. That's gonna be the new yeah, when he's gonna come in every now and then he's got little horns and a little you know they're crooked horns. They're crooked horns. Hang on, hang on.
Speaker 5:Hang on. Hang on Devil's advocate here.
Speaker 4:But I'm gonna say two things. And Jada, shut the fuck up. And then the second thing Please, please.
Speaker 5:Respectfully please.
Speaker 4:Because it's not, it's none of our business and this is why you know, and we've all said this, or you know, I wanna say 80% of black households have said they want that Will and Jada kind of love, right, let's go down let's go down.
Speaker 5:I saw a meme that said that J Cole has to take that line out of the song now.
Speaker 4:So listen, you probably should, but how? And so here's the flip on it. I have. I've kind of said that, but now, as I've gotten older, I don't want that Will and Jada kind of love. I want that Angela and Courtney Vance kind of love. Okay, and because we don't know their business, it is none of our business what goes on in their household. And they've been married for what 20-some odd years you know. And this is Angela motherfucking Bassett and Courtney Vance. That's Will motherfucking Smith and Jada Pinkett.
Speaker 5:So- Smith, don't forget, her last name is still Smith.
Speaker 4:Will she just listen? But here's the other angle of it and I'm gonna go a little. I'm gonna dig just a little bit deeper and, like y'all know me, I'm a star junkie. So remember, he's a Libra, she's a Virgo, right, and granted, she's a little, the player goes oh God.
Speaker 4:Oh Lord, here we go, but listen to this and I commented this on this this reel that had their marriage going out for, I think, what? How many years has this been? However long they've been married? But you can see the progression and then the regression of her into him and what was being publicly displayed and him always being himself, or you know?
Speaker 4:Whatever I wrote the real truth of is that most Libras will stay in a situation way too long because we get comfortable and somewhat dependent on companionship. We know that it's hurting us and we stay because we want to make it work until and usually that moment happens at the cost of public embarrassment. Now we can either come to light and say you know, do what we gotta do and let it be, or we can stay. This is the mind of a Libra. We can stay to prove it to others as opposed to proving the truth to ourselves. That's the craziness that Libra's going ahead. She's a Virgo and she's very calculated and they are calculated and this is not in a negative way, but there's a plan for everything. Everything has a plan. You say plan to a Virgo they're gonna have an orgasm, so like she's become really calculated and detached from the truth but will do antics publicly to save face or get others on the bandwagon. They can.
Speaker 4:I'm just reading what I wrote they can fall out of love but still stay routine, which is something that's been grained. It's a repetition. It's something that we do. If it's over and a repetition, this is what it is, and it's just interesting how I think this is playing out the way it's supposed to play out. But I feel sorry for Will. I think all of us do feel sorry for Will because she is publicly making a fool of herself, which is making a fool of him and their family, and we've been talking about their family. People have been talking about their family for the years with their kids, and is it really them or is it her?
Speaker 3:Can we access her as question, though, and I think this might help clarify some things. Why do we think she's doing it? What is her motivation? Because and the reason why I say this is because, just like how you said, that you feel like people need to keep certain relationships or things private. There's people that live on making the private public. Like when I was in a relationship, I was always asked by people how come I didn't post more pictures of my relationship, how come I didn't? You ultimately did, though.
Speaker 4:I'm telling you what I'm telling you. Oh, was that really old, his page.
Speaker 3:No, no, no, I did, but people wanted more. Why don't you post more? Why don't you post more? So here you're telling me that it needs to be private. And then there's other people that says no, we want something to aspire to be or like, look at or entertain. I would love the private to be public. So here you have Jada. Is she doing it for the money? Is she doing it to get back at him? Is she doing what is her reasoning? She misses August.
Speaker 5:I have so many thoughts about all of this. And if this were most other situations where let's take it out of the celebrity world, like if it were any other situation where it was like you happen to get some information about, like some friends that like might be like breaking up or something like that, and then maybe the innate reaction is to speculate well, maybe this or maybe that, or da, da, da da and then talk about it with, like, mutual friends and gossip about it and make speculations. This said in the third, I generally try to steer clear of doing things like that, like I don't want to make assumptions or put speculation on what's happening with other people. I feel like this situation is different entirely, because I feel like she's inviting us to do just that. She wants us to talk about everything that's going on. Otherwise, why do you continue to tell us information?
Speaker 4:She's bored, she has nothing better to do with herself.
Speaker 5:Of course, the other part of it, you're gonna be a lot on it, except that If we're talking about, like, what the motivation is, what the reasoning is, like maybe it is what you were saying, pj like maybe there's this small possibility that she's doing it so that way Will does garner more sympathy.
Speaker 5:Like maybe she's taking on the role of, like the scapegoat and making herself the exile so that people will love him more, maybe maybe that's what's happening. The only other possibility that I can think of right now is that she did write this book, she did write this memoir and she's on the road promoting her book. What is the purpose of the book? Is to sell the book is to get money from telling her story, and I'm just I have so many issues with that because I don't know if she's in therapy, I don't know if she has a therapist. I feel like she's treating the world as her therapist to heal whatever it is that she feels like she needs to heal her work on, and I don't get paid to be her therapist, so I'm gonna need her to stop.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I mean, you know why the first reasoning that you gave BJ is I could see that happening where she's kind of just becoming the scapegoat and that way we can kind of get Will back into, I guess, a better light or what they think is a better light. But I don't believe that it's because she's bored, because with you, with the notoriety that you have the notoriety that you have and I was talking to somebody else about this.
Speaker 3:I said I just think it's so hard to believe that this is the route that you're using to gain people that can help you out with money and support and projects and stuff like that. Like people already know who you are, whether it is through your husband or however you wanna cut it, but people already know who you are. You have actors, you have people listen, you have the three of us in a room. We don't have as many connections and stuff. So we don't and we still don't use that, we still don't do that, we don't still use that needs. So it's just weird to me. It just doesn't add up.
Speaker 5:I just don't understand the need to share such personal, private information in such a public way. Talk to me and make a commentation to it.
Speaker 4:So I think it all boils down to even when she started the whole red table talk, right? So that whole shit was a scam, or at least it appears to be, because you sat at this table and you told us all these things and you lied to people's faces. Now we're gonna slowly transition away from them and move on to the actual topic, the actual thing in hand, because we're not here to judge, because the truth is, we don't know, and that's what we say every single time. Something like this happens, right, and they still have any complete sidebar conversation, but we still haven't even talked about anything with Jonathan Majors and they still haven't even had a guilty, non-guilty verdict. For have they? I don't think they have.
Speaker 5:I thought the jar just ended up getting dropped.
Speaker 4:Did they get dropped? Yeah, so okay.
Speaker 5:I don't know, but I remember hearing something like that.
Speaker 4:All right, so we never really spoke on that, but you know that's because we don't know we can. All that's what podcasts are and that's what all these other blogs and is our opinions. But our opinions can only affect those who are listening as well as it can also affect people who are going through this at this present time. Now, if you are the same kind of person where you feel like you're at a party and because wait, sidebar, to be honest with you, here's what she's doing Jada Pinkinsmith is doing, where art imitates life. She is playing herself as she played herself when she was in Kingdom Come and she was being all loud and ghetto and not loud and ghetto, but just loud and telling people personal business that no one needed to know.
Speaker 4:Remember Kingdom Come, the tauntry earring, all this other stuff. But I just, I, just I get annoyed with it because it's like we don't need to know this and I don't want to know and that's what. That's why people, I think, going further, going, you know, later down the road, we've already entered in the world of everybody knowing everything about you, right, and then now, whether or not we succumb to it is another thing, but whether, why do you feel the need. What is it that you're doing it for? Who is the money going to?
Speaker 5:There's a big factor behind this, and I don't know what it is. Maybe this is a situation where you know Venus has her micro braids in too tight, but it seems to be. I thought you'd like that. It seems to be they're a little loose now. No, I think they tight.
Speaker 4:It's a tight bun now so they're not pulled back. Oh no, we're in. You know it's off balance. We're still in.
Speaker 5:You know, we're still in Liberman it seems to be this epidemic of people sharing just business out the woodworks. Case and point, as I was on my way home today to do this podcast with the two of you, knowing that we were going to talk about this tonight, I opened my phone and what do I happen to see? A headline that reads Justin Timberlake trans after Britney Shears shares that she was previously pregnant with his child.
Speaker 4:So it's partial why? Do we need to talk?
Speaker 4:about this there's a big part of it that has to do with the cry for attention, right, and I can understand that. As a person who is an attention seeker at times, I can understand that aspect. But this is not the way to go about it, because the court of public opinion is really mostly the court that matters, besides the actual law court. But when it comes to your career and people caring about you, you know, like right now, literally I guarantee you, if she was to go on a stage right now to present something, she would get booed.
Speaker 5:So Well, she's already getting that's. All I see on social media now is literally everybody saying like girl, we didn't ask for this information. Please stop talking. Please stop telling us this info. Like, and I'm interested to see at what point Does she, if, if she pulls back and at what point you know she pulls back, because that I mean. Again, I know the way that social media works and the algorithm and whatnot. They show you the things that you're going to be interested in and, like you know that kind of trend towards you, but that is so much of what I have seen on Instagram and tiktok is people's reaction saying exactly what we're saying, which is girl, stop telling us all your business. We don't want to know it.
Speaker 5:No no and then, at the same time, you know, because social media is what social media is. I don't know if you guys saw what will posted today.
Speaker 4:Did he post something? Because I was literally about to say I really hope he doesn't get involved.
Speaker 5:Oh, he posted a video. It's him sitting down and the caption on the video says my statement. And then he starts the video by saying, okay, look, this is my, this is my, this is my statement. And then he goes and he sneezes, or he pretends to sneeze, and then the video does. You know how? He has a lot of like Inception stuff in all of his videos.
Speaker 4:It goes into like an inception like kind of thing and essentially the the messaging that I Interpreted from it was like y'all ain't gonna hear nothing from me and, as you shouldn't, uh, libra shout out will, um, because, like, I really hope he does not give any type of like anything to this, and this is, this can be and will be, uh, his comeback. Let's just, let's just let that be known, um, because I think this is very similar. Johnny Depp is I don't know who is whoever, whichever one of them, why people were in court, uh, johnny. Depp.
Speaker 4:Johnny Depp um, and like now for him to come back and not saying similar, because you know they were obviously different cases and this and that, whatever. I'm just talking about court of public opinion. Right now he's he wants to, he's trying to get back into Pirates of Canberra and just all this. All this stuff. You know, I don't talk about this at all thing, but the idea of now that we see that amber heard is that what's her name? That?
Speaker 5:oh my god.
Speaker 4:I'm so proud of me. I'm so proud of you as well, but, like you know all the issues that you know, people are starting to feel sorry for him or whatever, and now he's looked at in a much different light. Then he was looked at before you know. Maybe this, this will happen. That's all I want to know and that's all I care about. I don't want to care about none of this other stuff, but as we move on off of Will and Smith, will, will and uh.
Speaker 5:Will and Smith.
Speaker 4:Will Smith and his um Beneficiary. Wow, wow, if she is um, but so I'm I'm sure she'll tell us what.
Speaker 5:For real, I'm glad she tells us everything. I'm sure, see, she tells us everything except the things that, like, would actually be helpful to us as a people.
Speaker 3:Of course never. Sometimes should be all like y'all want to know and not even just tell you the truth.
Speaker 5:You want to know how we have our trust fund set up. Give us that information. Let us know how to Give us information on how to build our finances. Give us information on how to structure a business. Give us information on how to navigate a career. Give us information that we can actually utilize to for for for the betterment of ourselves. Know all of your personal trials and tribulations.
Speaker 4:And it's not even and these are also things that honestly, we've all been saying this shit for years Like it's a surprise at all, so like we've been saying that they've been doing their own separate, separate lives, things, separate marriages. Thing We've been saying is it was just never confirmed.
Speaker 5:I remember when my friend sent me that and I said, hmm, I'm not surprised.
Speaker 4:Yeah, so I mean this, and and if that was what, and so the thing has always been if that's what works for their marriage, that's what works for them. But now she's demining, demining, my demining, demonizing demonizing. She's demonizing him. Okay, and now she's also adding, adding stories about her pregnant by Tupac or whatever the fuck she's saying, and some having a good freaking Tupac's ghost babies.
Speaker 1:Okay what are you doing?
Speaker 5:Social media is unmatched, because another meme that I saw was they said that Tupac faked his death to get away from jada.
Speaker 3:Wait, wait, wait. But I saw one. I saw one where they said, finally, finally, that now that will and jada are separate, this is will it laying up in the bed. Okay we're just, like you know, sucking, freaking Tupac's ghost dick.
Speaker 4:Wait, let's all take a, let's all take a stroll down memory lane. Everybody remembers the uh before reels I guess it was the vine where she's like I, I, I, I'm in remission or whatever, sucking ghost dick and she'll just like be in mid conversation. Just, you don't remember that player. You remember, right, you remember you don't talk about you know I'm talking about, right, chris, yeah, and she was like being interviewed tight, okay, you, if you don't know, blair type.
Speaker 5:Who are you talking about?
Speaker 3:Blair type in ghost dick interview If you've never seen this but the here's, here's, here's another thing like she's just being, she's being photoshopped into everything now, every where, like because people now are making fun of her. It's just all like girl, shut up.
Speaker 4:Is it the interview this? Is a real-time reaction y'all Not the six minute video. Watch as much as you can, but it's funny. I want you to watch it now. Can you hear it? Can you hear it?
Speaker 3:I don't know if you guys can see this, but this was one of the ones I saw photoshopped. It's a ghost dick.
Speaker 5:It's not real. You can't stand a coca like it's real. She's straight up out the bed. I'm not doing this. I'm not.
Speaker 4:Oh, just the first. Later on she's having a conversation with her mother and she's like so, mom, whatever she's like, could you pass me? I'm sorry y'all those of y'all feeling the good lashes you know the internet wins a lot.
Speaker 5:I'm done with the internet wins every time stop. That said, jada reveals that she's been to park this whole time.
Speaker 3:Listen, they've been photoshopping our face onto to pugs body.
Speaker 4:And so this, this just adds to the conversation of again, like we think that people in the public eye I have it all together and I don't think that. No, okay, I don't think that at all, no.
Speaker 4:of course not, because, lauren hill said it best everybody is going through the same enemy, everybody's going dealing with the same demons. We are all. We're all human we're. We're on this earth to have a human experience. Whether you got more money, just give you more of a human experience, um, but we don't know what's going on with them and I, I don't want to know anymore. I don't like. I want to know. I want to know when is your next film? I mean when? No, jade, his next film is never going to happen again. But will we want to know? And never is a strong word. I don't want to know. Not wish her good luck and prosperity, but she continues to bash my man like this, my man.
Speaker 5:Not my man, my man, my man, my man, my man my man, my man, my man, my.
Speaker 4:I've always said will smith is my, my, my number one.
Speaker 3:You sure not dwayne's, uh man.
Speaker 4:Because dwayne is number one to on, from my view, will king bark cassey than dwayne martin as far as comments on that, on that, uh post.
Speaker 3:That might be dwayne's man, but and, mind you, dwayne martin.
Speaker 4:My whole entire life I've gotten that I look like him, even from my own fucking mother.
Speaker 5:Really. Yeah, yeah, not now maybe, but yeah, I wanted to Touch on something you said before it was. You can cut that out if you want to, or leave it in it's up to you.
Speaker 4:But by my own mother.
Speaker 3:It's y'all prerogative.
Speaker 5:You can do what you want to do. So I just wanted to Go back to what you said earlier when we were talking about like I don't want that will and jade love, and you said I want that Courtney B Vance and angela bassett kind of love. But here's the thing for me, like I think that again this is a reminder that we have to stop idolizing other people's relationships. Amen, you have to stop idolizing other people's careers.
Speaker 4:You are You're?
Speaker 5:just a day I'm idolizing Other people and the only person you should be idolizing, jesus. Amen, and on that note. I'd like to say that I went to the reunion tour this weekend with Kirk Franklin and israel houghton and tamela man and it was Amazing. I got.
Speaker 4:Did God's property come up and stomp? This year will come out.
Speaker 5:That was the last song. She's salt came out. No, they had it. They had it on video.
Speaker 4:Um for the original uh not on the 50th year of hip hop, can't we?
Speaker 5:so, but again, I think that this is a reminder. This is a reminder. Hey, bianca.
Speaker 4:Um.
Speaker 5:That we have to stop I idolizing the way other people live their lives.
Speaker 5:We can take examples From what they do and what they don't do and then we can incorporate that into the trajectory that we have for our lives. But these people are not the goal when people say, oh, their relationship goals or oh, your this goals or oh, your that goals like Create your own goals, create your own perception of who it is you want to be like, just like last week when we were we sat here and we manifested the type of partner that we want. We didn't sit here and say, oh, I want somebody just like will smith, or oh, I want somebody just like this person, or I want somebody just like that person. We sat here and we spoke about the things that we would want in a partner, so that way that we can Manifest that partner. So I just wanted to say that real quick. I know we want to talk more about, like, what type of information you like to keep Personal versus or private versus what you would prefer to be public, but I think it's kind of all related at the end of the day.
Speaker 4:I mean, yeah, I mean like I think that and I can say this from past experiences, um, understanding what it's like to be um In a relationship that that is too public, that too many people know one a one sided rose colored glasses I view and Not knowing what's really going on, and then, as as it crumbles, people are wondering why, and you're still being the silent one, not sharing and just letting them just do whatever it is that they're doing and saying Whatever it is that they're saying, because I don't want to add to that, because I am done. So, yeah, listen that. And so there's a song by kelly rolling, titled rose colored glasses, and it's it's, it's one of my favorite songs from her um, and it's like they, they all know what they know. They never seen this side of you. You know, they know the lies, I know the truth. They say stay, I say go, um, and you know it's. We'd have no idea what people are going through, and I think that we need to stop and I'm glad that they're see they're.
Speaker 4:There are also certain times where this is a necessary evil. That does need to happen so people can start having these conversations, things start can maybe pulling back from a lot of things, you know, and I, as as public as I have been and this was also like my equivalent to like the du project and red table, talk right, I'm. I'm not here trying to share or fix anybody's problems if I'm going through stuff. And let me just stop doing this for a moment and let me settle my stuff, as opposed to being like in a complete imposter and Sitting at this plastic as red table Explaining things that I have no idea about, because I don't even believe in them, because once the cameras go off, I go into my um house that's seven miles away from my um, my benefit, my benefactor Down the street, the one who pays all of my bills, because I don't have any rev. Nothing's coming in, you know since, even what? What could she be getting from shayna?
Speaker 5:We don't know.
Speaker 4:I mean, I'm sorry she sold carol's daughter she, you know you know so Her pockets. Yeah, so yeah, obviously correct, we don't know their pockets, and that's another thing. So, like these, these are the things that should remain. Pause, really private your pockets, your relationship, your intimate, what makes your marriage work. I don't need people knowing if I'm in a polyamorous relationship or a monogamous relationship or, uh, you know, an open relationship. I don't want people knowing all of that publicly. Close friends, yes, maybe that's the thing.
Speaker 5:I think it's one thing to Be open about who you are. It's a whole other thing to To broadcast it Far and wide for everybody to be aware of. You know like you can she. I don't have an issue with Her living her life the way she lives her life. That's her journey. Do what you want, and again, this applies to all of us. You know, like if that everybody has their own journey to, to travel. I guess for me the issue comes into play when People get very aggressive about how, just just throwing it out there as far as it'll reach right and hoping somebody will catch it and run with it.
Speaker 4:And now, Now I'm in the conversation again and that's what, that's what it's validated, and that's what it. That's what it.
Speaker 5:That's what it, that's what it sounds like, and it's just seems like an extreme coping mechanism and that's across the board.
Speaker 4:That's not even just with zeta, that's not even just with the situation, that's across the board and that is a serious condition. That is a serious cry for help. That is a serious like. I need to understand my worth in it. Before I do this, let me continue to like, bash and tell. Tell these secrets and. You know, like yo for real, like this is not freddy crew. This is night nightmare on elm street and we are not driving off a damn cliff. No, not for you.
Speaker 5:The thing that we always say on this podcast is therapy is important and everybody needs therapy.
Speaker 4:Everybody needs therapy regardless of your red classic table.
Speaker 5:a therapy that's right, exactly, no matter how well adjusted or how ill adjusted you think you are.
Speaker 4:Everybody, even therapists, have therapists.
Speaker 3:Exactly so he needs it too, if opera can have a therapist.
Speaker 4:If opera can have a therapist and if opera can be who she is and still be what she, what she is and the great conglomerate that is the entire opera winfrey.
Speaker 3:I can only imagine how august is looking at this from the sidelines. Like oh lord, I tend to pull it.
Speaker 4:No, he was part of. He was part of the scheme. He was. This was also something, no well, no, was he a part of the scheme or he was just in it? He was so. So he was part of the scheme. That's coming from her vantage point.
Speaker 3:But that doesn't mean that he has to be a part of that. No, no, no. I'm just, yeah, I'm just speaking about like her selfish, uh like no, oh, yeah, okay, but like you know that, like to me, if I was august, I would be freaking relieved on the sidelines.
Speaker 4:I would drive. I hope he has a song Um.
Speaker 3:I would be sitting there like I am a boy.
Speaker 5:The other part of that too, which is so Frustrating and, again, like I didn't pay too much attention to all of that when it was going on, so I don't know all of the details specifically, but I do remember hearing something about how he was going through some type of like mental strife Right, yes, when all of this was happening and, pardon me, feels like he was very much taken advantage of during all of it.
Speaker 4:She said let me give you my, my Jada pussy. Who was taken advantage of August oh yeah, but again, that's from perspective of we don't really know again, exactly, exactly and as we shouldn't know, and should have never known.
Speaker 5:Should we know this information? Which is what this all comes down to at the end of the day. Should we know this information? I guess there are points to be made for both sides. I can't think of what they might be right now, but in any situation there's there are pros and there are cons, but maybe that's maybe as the listeners if you all listening leave a comment and tell us if you can think of a perspective where it is good for us to know this information and it is beneficial or helpful to us in some way. What is some way that we can take this information and use it in a positive way?
Speaker 3:Or even I have another, another thing to add to that what is the? What is the cutoff point of what is too private or too public? What is that? What does that look like, like personally, to you?
Speaker 5:For me specifically, any information that I share publicly that involves more than just me as a singular person has to be.
Speaker 4:Consent.
Speaker 5:Consent. The other people who are involved have to have consented to it, like, for example, to our listening audience. You know, pg and I used to host a podcast about celibacy where we would talk about like our journey with celibacy and like everything that we were like doing with it. Yada, yada, check it out. It's called willing listening, wow. It's been that long she said willing and listening.
Speaker 3:I am done this Dixie.
Speaker 5:You PJ are going to have to cut that out because wow.
Speaker 4:That is no. That's hilarious Willing and listening.
Speaker 5:I'm living that out because like, like, what type of shit is that?
Speaker 4:number one. You do only also realize, that there's only one episode available.
Speaker 5:Yeah.
Speaker 4:So let's just say yes, but I pay for it.
Speaker 5:I thought about that, I was like, as I was saying, and I was like so just a little start over. So some of our listeners might know that, pj, I used to host a podcast, glutton. Go right there. Take three Wow.
Speaker 4:That's why I'm leaving it.
Speaker 5:Please don't Don't. I'm begging you, please don't I look like I told you my hunger might affect my performance.
Speaker 4:It's happening now.
Speaker 5:That part. You can leave it For some of our listeners. You might know that PJ and I used to host a podcast called willing and waiting and on that podcast I talked about the relationship that I was in, but I never said his name, never gave any type of identifying information about him, because it wasn't. We hadn't had a conversation about him being known as who he was on the podcast, so he had a code name and we never specifically said anything that would give people an indication as to who he was. You know, I'm going to keep his identity private.
Speaker 4:And we never will.
Speaker 5:So so it's. It's again to go back to your question, read If there's going to be, I feel like, public information, If it has to do with just me, then that's up to what my comfort level is with the public knowing X Y Z about me. If it has anything to do with anybody else, and that's just not romantic partners, but that's friends, family, you know, business relationships, whatever it is. I'm not going to fully speak on anything or anyone unless I have reason to believe that that person would be comfortable or okay with me.
Speaker 4:I have the exact same answer. I have the exact same answer, like it's really important to me, especially if, if those words have already been expressed Right. So, like you know, previously, previously on you know, I, we had that conversation and it is always my prayer and my hope that it still remains that, because I choose also to respect the original conversation that was had, so in in, in a specific space. That is none of their business type of situation, and I don't need any extra, I don't need to be will given my statements, you know, because it's nobody's business what goes on in your relationship, what's your, why your relationship existed, why it exists or why it's no longer present. So it's like it's no one else's business, unless all parties are, like you know, we're open, we talk about this, but if that is a clear boundary, like I don't, I know y'all, y'all, y'all have all heard me talk about my lengthy ex that I had and I have, and there are stories that I have shared and I have had to twist around because there are things that I don't want to share about him, because that's something that he's not comfortable with sharing. Even me saying this gives the illusion that, oh my God, there's more, but it's none of your business. So, regardless of whether I should code or don't mention it or anything like that, the point is is that I don't want to say anything that's going to hurt you, and I would expect the same from my partner as well. So, like or or fuck partner, like fuck relationship.
Speaker 4:Just whoever's in my personal circle and this was and case in point when we had our friend group there the last blowout that we had was because that one friend, that one person in the friend group, brought up something that I spoke to him about in private and he brought it up at a dinner table at a restaurant in like I want to say it was in Soho, was not too far from boxers, and it paid. Like are you fucking kidding me? Like what makes you think that this is okay? And before I start spazzing out and throwing tables and acting like Tammy Roman, let me get up and leave. And those were the slowly, like that's the borderline, like we have reached a point of no return. I'm going to knock the shit out of you going forward.
Speaker 4:And so even like wanting to have a conversation of forgiveness, and I don't know if we've really, really ever. I think we did do a few episodes about this, but let me let me retract. So I know you asked before about if there anybody I would apologize to, and I would apologize last week and I would apologize to the same person I'm speaking to now. I'm apologizing at the last text I really sent, or last conversation that we had was me saying that we need to talk because we didn't. So I apologize for wasting time because it was no talk to be had.
Speaker 5:Wow, you will laugh at that. One didn't you.
Speaker 4:I mean no, but that's, that's what I'm apologizing for, because it leaves the open, ended like, oh, he was trying to fix it, but then he just gave up. No, I just said, even like, because I wasn't going to fix it in the first place. So, but because there was nothing to be fixed, it's already been damaged. You've already stepped over a boundary that I've said to you before Not to do. And now it's public and these people don't know. Prior to what happened, prior to that, why would you bring it up? And now they're asking me questions and if I don't, if I smack them for asking me a question, that's out of pocket. You, you deserve to get smacked to and I don't smack people, but apparently will does.
Speaker 5:Full circle.
Speaker 4:There we go. Shout out to the internet done.
Speaker 5:So what about you read? Is there kind of a guideline on what you would keep private versus what you would display quickly?
Speaker 3:I just think that. I just think that there just needs to be a consensus. I think that's that's the main thing, like with both parties, I think, if it's, if it's me or anybody as an individual, I mean like, do you? I think everything has a every action has a baby or repercussion.
Speaker 3:So if you want to, if you want to, fuck around to find out, do do whatever it is and put it out there, sure, but just know that everybody is going to have an opinion about that, and I think that's, I think that's very important to like highlight whatever you put out there, it's for you to understand that there is going to be some type of reaction to it, because everybody is like opinions, everybody has a has a asshole. Is that what they say?
Speaker 4:everybody has opinions.
Speaker 3:Like opinions are like assholes everybody's got a asshole and others are in summer in summer shittier than others.
Speaker 3:Yeah, right, and so well, okay, but you know everybody has that. So, you know, do you want to necessarily deal with that? And then also, are you being, are you being mindful enough, like, even if you're thinking of yourself on an individual level, depending on the type of information that you're putting out there, then you also have to deal with the people who are somehow related to you. Right, like, if I do something that's really crazy, I mean now has to feel the repercussions of it, because everybody knows my family, everybody knows that that's my family. You know, will they handle it or take it in the same way? You know, imagine and and I use this loosely, but you know you can use any scenario, but imagine if I was to go out and kill somebody right now my dad, who is a former police officer, my mother that used to work for the city, like they would just have to deal with that. So what, what are you? What are you putting out there? What are you doing? How are you monitoring your actions? Act accordingly.
Speaker 5:That's the thing you have to remember that your actions affect more than just you.
Speaker 4:Like you know and like, another example would be like if we were in a, we were in a space and, granted, I've talked about this publicly. And just because I talk about it publicly or talk about things publicly doesn't mean that it needs to come out of number one. It should never come out of anybody else's mouth in general, just period. But like, let's say, we talk about suicidal ideation, right, and I've been in spaces where someone has said, well, you try to commit suicide before. So what was what? What was that like? What would you want to share?
Speaker 4:I've been in spaces where maybe I don't need everybody knowing all of that. That's not, that's not a conversation for this space, because I'm not comfortable, nor do I feel safe, warm or welcome inviting to be sharing all of this with these damn people. First, like, let me at least know what their ball smell like first, like, like you know, but it's just, it's like how, how I'm thinking about my spaghetti and meatballs that's waiting for me to eat, but, like it's, we have to know time and place, time and place, time and place, time and place. I really wish I could say something on behalf of her that is good throughout this and we're going to bring it back to them. But listen, if will ain't got shit to say, I ain't got shit to say. I'm just not going to be listening to hear what she has to say.
Speaker 5:It doesn't matter if you're listening or not. You're still going to get the information, because that's just what it seems to be.
Speaker 4:And that's why I see it and keep scrolling. I don't want to know, I don't care, you know, or just don't look at it. I mean, it's.
Speaker 5:I just think it's very interesting that, like everybody's having the same reaction, because even, like I saw, amanda Seals had posted something saying, like girl stop, like take us out the chat. So it's I'm interested to see. Given this is the response, this seems to be the general consensus. I'm interested to see if she's going to address it in any way.
Speaker 4:I wonder if this is making her money.
Speaker 5:I'm not talking about the book no the fact that everybody is having this conversation.
Speaker 3:I think so, but that goes back to what I was saying before. You have so many other means and so many other avenues that so many other people don't have. Do you really need to go this route, if this is the most?
Speaker 4:right right. Yeah you're married to Will Smith. I mean, I'm sorry you were betrothed to Will Smith in 1990, something you know so remember she was in the fact.
Speaker 5:In the fact that she did not want to get married.
Speaker 4:Correct. You know, and now she's, she's, she's, she's had relations with women. And if that's the case, Jada, guess what? Will has said it. Only a man knows what a man needs, so will. If you, out there, you happen to get stumbled upon this, hey, let's chit chat.
Speaker 4:I think I said this before because you know he is Listen, but I mean and when I and and I don't mean chit chat like that, I mean because I look up to this man like I feel like he's like the wisest Libra ever, but if y'all can see that I have no, I'll tell you after the show is over. But this, what image of him is actually on pause? It's the statement, but he's sitting there.
Speaker 4:You sitting there and staring at him while we have in this conversation and on that note, you see, my eyes keep looking away because he's aging quite well, but at this, during this time, during this time he is aging quicker.
Speaker 5:Well, I mean, that's what stress will do to you.
Speaker 4:And you know.
Speaker 5:So like hey, I just want to know when he came out the White House.
Speaker 4:I just, I'm just ready, I'm just ready to hear for him Like to be single and, you know, be out there ready to mingle. But, on that note, before we end the show, I did, I did. I didn't mention this earlier. I didn't want to give a and I know I said this last week. As far as on, well, last week it was this, it was the soundcheck. The actual show happened this past Monday on. This episode is recorded on Tuesday. You guys will hear about this on Friday, but I do want to tell you I Did want to.
Speaker 4:I did want to give again a special shout out to Christian John. Why Kane, could you imagine? I was like is it wicking? I asked him he's like, no, it's. Why came? Yeah, so I want, I want to give a Humongous Shout out, a thank you, well, a shout out to Christian John, why came? And of unscripted live For an amazing show. It was a blessing to actually be on the team, be added to the team. It was a documentary that was presented a screening with, you know, such great musical legends. If yo guys don't know, we had Brenda Russell there. Brenda Russell is the original writer of get here, which was sung again by Alito Adams, who originally that song was supposed to go to Whitney Houston, whitney.
Speaker 4:Houston was one of it, and Brenda said no, thank you, I wanted for myself. And then I don't think I'm gonna keep this Thank you, asher and Simpson, ray Parker and for those of you who don't remember, ray Parker Jr, the man who rogues buzzers, is a black man and was a sexy black man. By the way, something strange in neighborhood you know and received a.
Speaker 4:Grammy for that. But it was just an amazing night and I want to thank my buddy, my soul brother in in creativity, say cool Luke of Say cool Luke photography. You guys check him out on Instagram. That would be under step. That would be say who spelled S E? S is in Sam E Kou, underscore Luke L, uk e amazing videographer. And it was it.
Speaker 4:It's another reason why, like this podcast was created and how we even like be as a community, it's so great to be amongst Other people who are doing what we are trying to do. We are each building each other up and lifting each other as we go and if I have an opportunity, I'm gonna, you know, pass it along to to either Chris O'Blair, if I can, and vice versa, and that's what it is. That's what it's about and it's just great to be in a space like that, especially when we really need these things. So, again, I just wanted to, I just and I wished that. You over there, but it was a packed house and the audience it was. Yeah, we turn people away, but you know the wine shout out to city winery for hosting it.
Speaker 4:And again, thank you for Me allowing opportunities to not scare me so much that I self sabotage this conversation I had with my therapist. So but yeah, so on that note there, anything anybody want to add? No, we all under covers at this moment. Okay, on that note, guys, thank you for taking the time to listen to another episode of highly motherfucking melanated yes, the say space where it is okay to step the fuck out of the chat. We don't need to know all this shit. You can follow us on Instagram and tiktok. There will be highly melanated podcast.
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Speaker 3:I did a newsletter for the frat from this chapter one time and I was like, oh my god, there's so much work.
Speaker 5:It is a lot of work and it came out quarterly. Oh.
Speaker 4:Well, wait what happened? And did you already save your Twitter's? He did On that. No, guys, peace love and you know, yeah, literally I want you know. My response is gonna be.
Speaker 5:I was gonna say keep my name out, yo chat Okay.
Speaker 4:Keep my name. You know what that's it. Keep your name out of my chat, you.